The one thing no-one mentioned on this thread (sorry, ivory, to bump an old thread AGAIN….and Randomex….and anyone else who complained….I haven’t been here too long so I have so much to catch up on 😉 ) is that in the Torah’s times (meaning Yaakov and Leah etc.), they had a COMPLETELY different mindset!! I mean Avraham never even saw Sarah before they got married! These days, it’s a halacha! And someone said above that Yaakov and Leah’s marriage worked out fine….um, maybe I have the facts wrong, but I believe Yaakov wasn’t too thrilled with the initial arrangement, if I remember correctly….also, there are so many proofs in the Torah that marriage today just isn’t like it was then (Boaz and Rus)! You can’t just say, “Well, it’s what worked for Yidden in previous generations, so it’ll work for us.” But we aren’t on the same spiritual level as previous generations – I thought that would be obvious. Not that I am putting down the chassidish way – if that is your derech, then it’s great for you! But saying that it’s worked for Jews before doesn’t mean that it’s the best way for everyone these days.
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