Change the system or adapt to it. But your current view is only going to hurt you.”
I vote to change it. Trying to adapt to it, has hurt many young people who are just not succeeding in that system in its present form. Likewise, it has hurt the parents of the girls in that system, as they have no golden years to look forward to, because they are too busy trying to support their sons-in-law and daughters, who should have long since been making their OWN way in life. And who will support the NEXT generation of learners, whose own fathers have no financial backing to give them, because they never learned a trade to earn the kind of parnassah that allowed THEM to sit and learn all day.
It is not an either/or situation. There has to be a fundamental compromise, or I predict we will see more and more problems in the next twenty to thirty years.