The fact is, this is a Kibbud that is usually given to a younger bachur. “
Not in my shul.This is more often given to the elderly who can no longer do Hagbaha and cannot stand for an aliyah. I think that shows GREAT respect for them.
I believe that the very fact that the OP chose the kovod of G’lilah as his example (if it is correct that he merely wants to be treated as an adult and not as a kid), leads me to feel he has another agenda, and that is to stir up the controversy that he did, or else, he has no inner concept of kovod for Torah.
And Popa, yes, I believe in respect all around. But I also believe first and foremost in respect for the Torah, and that is NOT was I was feeling from that OP’s words. I think that after all these years, you should recognize that I try to be very reflective and think before I speak. And I try to always be sincere in what I express. Perhaps this time around, I did not express myself sufficiently well. If so, I regret that lapse.
However, WHATEVER the OP meant to convey, it came off (to me, at least and possibly to some others) as a bit chutzpahdig when speaking of something related to kovod haTorah. I will l’chaf zechus at this point, assume that was unintentional on his part, but please be assured, I am not overly-sensitive, I am quite “chillaxed” (especially now that everyone has gone home after yom tov), and if I give mussar in this forum, I must be feeling VERY strongly about the subject at hand. Regarding and worse, describing, ANY kovod relating to the Torah in a dismissive way, upsets me very much. It reminds me of someone who was insulted at my oldest son’s wedding because her husband was “only” asked to be an Eid Kiddushin at the Chuppah, instead of being asked to make a bracha under it.