If my wife liked cooking and wasn’t good at it, I’d eat her food with a smile, compliment her cooking, mipnei shalom bayit, and take an evening walk to Mendelsohn’s or Pomegranate. Dishonest? Yes. But the gemara says that lying mipnei darkei shalom is mutar, and I’m looking to marry someone with good middot and a good heart and beautiful neshama, not Julia Child (a”h). I’d do the cleaning myself, if she wanted to cook. I don’t trust strangers in my home, going though my belongings, and I also feel it’s degrading and arrogant to pay someone to do what people should do for themselves. Cleaning is an activity that develops the muscles and instills good middot. What is the aversion yidden have to cleaning their homes? I don’t get it.
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