minyan gal,
A rabbi once told me that it is easier to work with someone with good middos who’s learning about Frumkeit, because it’s an education issue. Someone who purports to be frum but is lacking in middos is a much harder problem to deal with.
Another rabbi once said, don’t judge Judaism by Jews. That’s especially important for me to remember when I hear about frum Jews pulling “shtick” (I don’t mean wedding “shtick”). We are human, we all make mistakes, and sometimes it is hard to be dan l’kaf zechus (to give the benefit of the doubt).
As a BT, I admire and respect you, especially for taking this on later in life.
Having said that, I don’t like to clean. I do like to live in a clean house, though. LOL