Aryea, please feel free to show my posts to your wife; I’m flattered.
When our boys were little, they used to like to go to the IDF Armoured Corps Museum at Latrun & climb on all the tanks (and even into some of them). I would always daven that that should be as close as they would ever have to come to such things. That our eldest will be in the IDF a year from now and that my wife and I will have to learn to dread knocks at the door weighs on my mind.