Patur – not at all. I happen to have a number of siblings living in Lakewood and one of them is the real deal. I have been been giving him a check almost every month for a while now. I am getting a piece of his learning and I am helping stay in yeshiva. I do not give my other siblings because I dont think that they are real learners. Let me be clear – I have no issue with learning and am all for it and am all for people going to kollel. I do not believe that all the guys sitting in Yeshiva are meant to be sitting and learning. they are causing unneccessary strain on the parent and inlaws that struggle to provide. we are a nation of cookie cutters and conformists. Not everyone should be learning and be supported.
The kesuba also speaks of husbands supporting families and providing not parents in laws/wives slaving all day?