Torah613 – Hey, I give that same type of answer! I always tell them to ask me specific questions as I don’t do narratives.
In regard to the tzniyus question above, I understand the point you are trying to make but if a girl is not dressing tzniyus according to halacha, why are you going to let the person decide if it is tzanua not? It’s not up to them. They may still be willing to pursue the shidduch, they may be “okay” with her level of tzniyus, but why are you wondering if tight clothing and barely covered knees constitute a yes or no for that question?
Maybe you know it is a no but didn’t want to say so? That shouldn’t be your decision to make. I have too many friends suffering in marriages because people were more sensitive to their friend than to the shidduch. If the girl wants people to say she dresses b’tzniyus, then let her dress b’tzniyus. If I don’t want people to say I’m fat (which I am) then I should either lose weight or not be seen in public.