Rebbe Dovid writes
The fact that she wants me to change my Rabbi for her shows that she doesn’t value Daat Torah. Don’t you think so?
In his initial post he says that he is “discusted” (sic) by her attitude towards this Rabbi whereas in a previous sentence he calls her amazing.
Tell me something Rebbe Dovid
Do all the parents get along?
Does your family like this girl?
This individual is not telling you not to seek his counsel. For whatever reason, she is not comfortable with this individual and you cannot understand that and this issue is a dealbreaker??
After all, how often will there be a need to consult with this Rabbi?
For important issues which affect the both of you, you do not think that the relationship is worth finding someone acceptable to both of you?
That is the true essence of marriage Rebbe Dovid. Compromise.
You have a lot of growing up to do before you walk under the chuppah my friend.
I am not a shrink but I think you have control issues that need to be addressed.
Be happy that you have an intelligent articulate individual who is letting you know what is bothering her up front and not letting it simmer and boil over after the wedding.
Your extreme comments are both revealing and troubling.