I don’t know that I believe that. Not to say that everyone should do 1 thing and be done with it, but every person is different and something that works for one person may not work for another. All I know is this way worked better for me, and I don’t think it makes me any more likely to chas v’s get divorced than my friend who dated for 6 days. On the contrary one friend in particular who has been married about the same length of time as I have, STILL says she feels uncomfortable without makeup around her husband, can’t use the bathroom when he is home, won’t scarf down food infront of him etc. in my case by the time I was engaged I was past those insecurities. Well the first and third :). I also have a friends who dated in a few short weeks who are very happy and comfortable and content bH. There is too much judging and high horsing on this site. I’m tellin you the negativity toward “semi chilled” yeshivish and GFB Modern orthodox is scary. We are all a part of BY we should start acting like it.
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