I think parents often mess up their kids shidduchim, without being aware of what they are doing and how counterproductive their actions could be. A mother wrote to the shadchan in the “Flatbush Jewish Journal,” about being annoyed that the boy her daughter was dating a few times, was going to E”Y for Chanukah. She wanted to know if they had a right to be upset with him, and I think basically she was saying she felt he had no business going on a trip while dating her daughter, and wanted to know should they be concerned about him.
FTR, this letter was presented once before (did they think I would not notice????), some time ago. I thougt then, and think even more so now, that this mom had best keep her pushiness to herself, before she scares the boy off with her demands about how he spends his vacation time when he is not yet even near to officially committed to her daughter. Anxious moms make anxious children, and anxious prospective in-laws. STAY COOL. If it is meant to be, do your hishtadlus, and then accept that the rest is in Hashem’s Hands.