Reply To: 3 most important qualities to look for in a shidduch

Why I seem fixated on the boys’ mothers is because I have never yet met a girl’s mom who demanded to see a pic prior to saying ok. The boys themselves, especially if yeshivish, are not so involved in the process in my experience. Is that they case 100% of the time? I am sure not. But I have seen it over and over in the last ten years. I have many friends who are by the book followers of the shidduch “rules” and they were the arbiters of whether or not a girl was good enough for their sons. Often, they wanted to see a picture first, even though the girl had alle mailos.