Golfer: could be I got the idiom confused. I meant that people who hate this idea of pictures will continue to hate them and people who like the pics will continue to like them.
As for myself, I told the shadchan that if a guy needs a picture then I’d rather not go out with him than send a picture because I find the whole pictures thing to be nauseating and creepy. I gave her my work address (although it was on the resume to begin with) and said if someone so badly needed to see what I look like, they were invited to come down to my work and go spying.
At the time I had facebook and I had a really blurry picture as my profile picture so I told a shadchan she could look me up on facebook since she wasn’t in the same city as me.
Honestly I don’t think it’s as nauseating if the boy’s mother needs to see as if the boy himself needs to see it. Let’s be honest, if you send a picture to a mother, probably she’s going to look at it just to decide if her son will be mad that she set him up with an ‘ugly’ girl and she’s just making sure he’s not ugly. If you send it to the boy he’s looking at it to see if she gets him ‘excited’ and then he’ll likely show it to his friends to see if they have the same reaction.