Something I wanted to add to the topic:
Whats the big deal about what the guy wears before he is married when most Kolel guys put on colored shirts (almost all change how they dress) once they start working?
Wouldnt you rather marry someone who knows who he is and doesnt change with the tide? Wouldnt you say for a Kollel guy to start changing once he goes to work is a sign that he wasnt that serious about his “shtarkkeit” to begin with?
A guy who wears the colored shirt before marriage and is working will likely dont change once he is married. He is frum, he davens with minyan, goes to a shiur or has a chavrusah…what you see is what you get. Isnt that preferable to a girl? Or do most girls prefer to let others do their thinking for them?