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January 1, 2015 4:43 am at 4:43 am
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☕ DaasYochid ☕
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I’ve been to a singles event. All the guys want to go out with the pretty girl.
This reminds me of one of the big issues I have with pictures. Sure, appearance can be important. But it shouldn’t be the ikkar.
The shidduch system has a huge advantage over socializing because the superficial aspect is downplayed, and isn’t a major factor in the decision to date (although may be more so in continuing, which is okay). Introducing pictures into the process shifts the focus from the ikkarim to the tafel by making looks a prerequisite to a date.
This problem always existed in the socializing model.