Look, I don’t care if people drink. Just don’t put yourself or other people in danger while doing so. Be drunk in the privacy of your own home or, if you absolutely must go out, bring a designated driver- and if she’s your wife, make it up to her BIG TIME afterward. Don’t completely defile your environment either; every year I go to a Purim seudah across the street from the rosh yeshiva of a beis midrash, and every year when I get out of the car I have to step around piles of vomit. My cousin told me that when she went in to bring shalach manos all of the surfaces were covered in plastic tablecloths and everything breakable was put away, and for very good reason.
If you’re an adult, though, if you MUST give alcohol to minors (and I don’t see why that’s a must) be responsible about it. Don’t give unlimited access- prevent kids from getting actually drunk- bear in mind that they’re many times smaller than you and need less alcohol to get to the ER. And remember, if you’re not his parent it’s ILLEGAL- try arguing “sacramental purposes” in court and see where it takes you.