ZD, your force feeding cholent case is precisely what I’m talking about – it’s clearly not the cholent that’s the issue, it’s the abusive father.
Fair point about MO vs. Satmar, but the OTD rate among secularly educated “chareidim” is still far lower than among the “modern orthodox”. So you can’t dismiss the notion that keeping a more stringent form of Yiddishkeit is a form of being more committed to it (not exclusively, and not to the exclusion of other forms) and showing that it’s not just a burden which should be thrown off as much as possible.
I think you missed my halachic point on lifnei iver.