Mammele:
And for all ladies out there, it’s a good idea to try to get the Kiddush “schedule” before Shabbos so you can “tweak” your seudah accordingly.
Nonsense. Let the husband show his appreciation by eating less at the kiddish and eating a normal meal at home. Food is always better at home anyway, or at least I think so. My wife is an excellent cook, our kids are learning the art of cooking and baking well, and no food at a kiddish can measure up to what’s on the table at home.