Women are more likely to have an appearance grow on them (we focus more on personality, how they make us feel, gevura, honesty, sincerity) and less on looks than men do. My mentor said that for a man, if he doesn’t find a girl attractive (does not enjoy to look at her) by date 3, then he might never and there is no reason to continue. Often for a girl, if does not find her date attractive at date 3, should continue a few more times, because his looks might grow on her if she enjoys his personality, tone, strength etc.
I haven’t been here that long, and I am not a man, so I only can speak from what here from ‘”older and wisers”