I didn’t read everything that everyone posted so bear that in mind when you read my post.
I have a brother who was diagnosed with pdd-nos at age 2 and aspergers at age 6. He b”h, with alot of work on his and my parents part has moved to a place were he sounds a lot like you, so high functioning that the diagnoses doesn’t fit him anymore, although he struggles understanding socail cues and norms,and will continue to struggle with them for the rest of his life.
My brother also happens to be brilliant, and an amazing guy. If you are an intelligent aspie (like most aspie’s I’ve met are) it must be so frustrating when NT’s don’t recognize what a talented person you are, and focus on your disabilities.I know that this is something my brother struggled with.
I think you have a choice though. You can choose like my brother to spend time with the people who are able to appericiate you for who you are, aspie quirks included. Or you can choose to focuse on the many many people who don’t treat you the way you should be treated. It’s really painful to have people treat you as if you are disabled when you probably have a higher IQ than they do, and want to have deep relationships as much as they do. But spending your energy on those people is allowing them to hurt you again.
My brother went through a period were he was bitter about the way he was treated by society, untill he learnt how to let it go. I don’t wish that for you!!! Try to surround yourself with people who are supportive of you.
Also understand that it is difficult for parents and siblings without the right tools and guidance to know how to relate to there aspie kids. Us NT’s just have a different way of seeing the world, and since most of the world is NT, the job of the aspie parents are to teach the aspie to thrive in an NT world. Try to give your parents some slack, I’m sure they are trying there best…
There are some great books out there Pretending to be Normal and Aspergers in the Family, that can help you understand the family dynamics- although the author is a little lower functioning than you sound. She has a thriving career, speaks publicly,is married to a NT, and has three kids- to aspies and one NT. Her story is really inspiring!!!!