Accountant: I think you need to ask yourself some questions.
First of all, why do you want to project an image of someone you are not? (It sounds like you DO have an issue with certain things you are doing now because you don’t want to attract the kind of girl that’ll be happy with you the way you are now.)
How do you want your future home to look?
It’s commendable that your relationship with Hashem is important to you. But as believing Jews, we know that it is NOT us that get to decide what brings us closer or not. We have halachah that we need to follow. So watching movies should be something you ask a shailah about.
(I’m sorry you had a bad experience with the yeshivish crowd. But that does not mean that your choices are right just by virtue of being different than their’s.)
The wife you marry will impact the way your home is – that goes without saying. Are you focused on growing upwards – are you committed to following da’as Torah? MO style or the style you grew up with?
These are all questions you need to answer.
This is a major decision that will impact your entire ruchniyusdig future I suggest you try to find your center and remember what’s really important in life.
Wishing you loads of hatzlachah!