Agree with DY.
Strife and Shalom Bayis issues over food??!?
How important exactly is food to you?
More important than getting along with your spouse or offspring?
I’ve had an argument (or two) in my life (trying not to divulge too much personal info) but over FOOD?
I have the greatest admiration, by the way, for a few acquaintances who got sons-in-law with major Pesach chumros and overhauled their menus to accomodate them.
For my own part I’ve been know to adjust the menu for picky eaters or guests’ preferences where no Halachos or minhagim were involved.
If the company is good and the table is set nicely I always feel it’s a beautiful seuda!