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None of them mention it when they discuss the chiyuv of peru urevu.
The Rambam in Ishus 15:2 says that men are chayev in peru urevu and women are not.
The Tur in Even Ha’ezer in the end of siman 1 states that a woman is not obligated in peru urevu. He doesn’t say that she is obligated in sheves.
The Shulchan Aruch in Even Ha’ezer 1:13 says that a woman is not obligated in peru urevu, yet he doesn’t mention anything about an obligation of sheves. The Rema there, adds the yesh omrim that she should get married because of chashad but he doesn’t say that she should get married because of sheves.
The Levush in Even Ha’ezer 1:13 says that women are not obligated in peru urevu and in 1:14 he mentions the issue of chashad. Again, there is no mention of an obligation of sheves.
That was all proof by omission. The Aruch Hashulchan is explicit though. In Even Ha’ezer 1:2 he says that women are not obligated in peru urevu. In 1:3 he quotes the Rema about chashad. Then in 1:4 he writes:
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Also see the ??? ???? on the Rambam in Hilchos Ishus 15:16 who proves that the Rambam doesn’t hold of sheves for a woman from he fact that in Issurei Biah 21:26 the Rambam writes:
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So I think we see that the Poskim reject Tosafos’s position. The Aruch Hashulchan actually claims that even Tosafos doesn’t hold that women are obligated in sheves. He claims that it’s impossible for women to have such an obligation because he understands that sheves simply the force behind peru urevu, and women are not obligated in peru urevu.