OURTorah:
In case this hasn’t been made obvious yet, I certainly have full respect for anyone who is serving Hashem the way he or she has been taught to do. But what’s against the Torah can not be condoned as a “legitimate derech”, etc.
I’m sorry if some people don’t like that and I wouldn’t want any of your friends to be “turned off” by it either. But this is, I think, the Yeshiva World, not Mizrachi World, and therefore the positions espoused therein are geared to and should conform to the gedolim of the Yeshiva world and not the leaders of MO/Mizrachi. If individual MO Jews have any questions, they can certainly ask their LMOR for answers.
As I mentioned, this has been discussed before. Like here, for example:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/respecting-each-other
In the piece mentioned there, Rav Schwab tries to draw MO, with much love and respect, into the fold of Torah Judaism. He implores them to abandon their fossilized “modernity” and instead embrace the true modernity of the vibrant Torah world.
I sincerely hope that they do so.
To clarify your last paragraph about “YU and Stern in your mind is very naive”, I don’t at all believe the institutional policy to be a result of naivete but rather a normal function of their MO theology. Once again, the many less-religious people are not the concern other than hoping that they all grow in their religion to full Torah Jews (in spite of where they are). The concern is, rather, the institutional policies of the MO faith.