I guess you agree to the aveiros part. This itself might override your concerns.
I disagree with your concerns, though. A lot of the relationship issues are based on ????? ??? ?”? ???? ????????, so I disagree with your implication that contact during the engagement would diminish the problems which can occur afterwards.
I don’t think the relationship can fully develop until ???? ????????, and trying to do so, too much, too early, is detrimental.