benignuman – don’t we learn in parshas bereishis that part of chava’s punishment was that she would be subservient to her husband? and this doesn’t mean that she should bow and scrape to his every whim, it means that she is supposed to be more in the background supporting and helping him in his own avoda.
if you look at non-jewish society, you will see that women who have attained very high positions of power, whether in the army/police force, government or top corporate positions, have lost the sensitive qualities that make a woman what she is – these women are ruthless and very often nasty pieces of work