(Not a full response to this thread, obviously.)
Oh, they were contacted all right…
From The Guardian (and quoted by many news outlets):
Binyamin Lipkin, editor of Hamevaser, said the newspaper is a family publication that must be suitable for all audiences, including young children.
He also said he did not want to tarnish the memories of the people killed in the attacks.
The Washington Post also included Guardian coverage of last
time in one article (I don’t think anyone else did):