Very nice post, pba.
I can see you’re making a valiant, articulate effort to bridge the gap.
The problem is that the gap is not just ideological; there’s a lot of emotion there as well. On both sides.
As a mother who would not encourage her sons to join the army, it doesn’t help me find an answer to what for me is the most difficult question of all:
When I meet a Jewish mother (just like me even if she looks a little different) who has lost a son, how do I look her in the eye?