Loyal Jew: See Rashi Yoma 20b D”H Ee Tagras and you might have to rethink your definition of the “Issur of reversing gender roles”.
Also, every working Talmid Chacham should be offended by what you said. Many of Chazal and a good number of Rishonim, Acharonim, and Poskim also had to have a job to support themselves and their families so that they could learn. They are M’kayeim the world just as much as someone who is fortunate enough to be able to afford to learn in Yeshivah/Kollel all day.