golfer – you are right about the increasing queries but, as I may have said elsewhere, nobody is indicating that they are coming here for an answer in place of asking a rav. it is just interesting to hear what other frum people have experienced and what they think.
I know someone who was in that same situation and i would bring two points:
1-those parents were the “hating” type in general so if not this it would have been something else.
2-they did get married and ostracized from their parents (but not siblings) BUT years later the parents realized that they were cutting off their proverbial noses and they made peace.