Reply To: Should the wishes of racist parents that I not date their child be respected?

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WolfishMusings
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Wolf: So it’s perfectly fair to tell the shadchan not to redt any black guys to you, correct?

I’m *definitely* not interested in black guys (or guys of any color) for a shidduch. 🙂

But to answer your question – the person who is requesting the shidduch has the right to place parameters on the persons sent to them, especially when it involves physical traits. Thus, yes, I believe they can ask for certain age ranges, heights, weights and, yes, races. If there is no attraction, then there is no reason to consider it.

However, the person will eventually have to answer to The One Above regarding whether they’re excluding people of other races on the basis of physical attraction or racism.

Parents (or anyone else, on the other hand) should have absolutely *zero* say regarding physical characteristics that their children can and should date.

The Wolf