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“I have never encountered a statement in all my learning that says what you said “that some said you should live well””
Well in the spirit of matan Torah here is one i provided earlier in the thread:
“asid liten din vecheshbon al kol sheraasa eino velo achal”
Roughly translated: In the future [you will have to] answer for any [mutar] item [that you] saw and did not eat”
It is a yerushalmi at the end of Kidushin:
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14142&st=&pgnum=475
We have a broad agadata, and there are quotes that can be brought up to justify many approaches. Just because this approach is not yours doesnt automaticly make it wrong.
Tochacha should be reserved for halacha, “vos shteit in shulchan aruch” not to lofty mussar levels. IF you want to avoid it beautiful! I hope it brings you closer to Hashem .
If they want to enjoy it, that is perfectly fine! And that it is enhanced with limud Hatorah is a wonderful thing.