No yeshivas advocate thinking of Hashem as the big bully or mafia boss in the sky. The other way is equally dangerous- thinking of Hashem as your zeidei in the sky who only loves you and never punishes.
“Instead of fighting my taivos i turn to god and ask him to help me do his ratzon for me.”
You need to do both- if you only ask Hashem and dont fight it wont work. And if you only fight and dont ask Hashem for help it wont work.
Anyone who says they got somewhere big in ruchnius without extreme effort and fighting is LYING.