The poor among us should not just be helped to get by, but should be raised to the level of everyone else who helps pay for it.
Do you really not see a difference between a chasunah in Torah V’yirah and one in The Palace? Do you really think all kallahs are getting the same jewelry?
More importantly, you can bemoan the state of our materialism, or your incorrect perception of bleeding heart liberalism (don’t you agree that “shelo l’vayesh mi she’ein lo” is a Torah concept?), all you want, but l’maaseh, if someone asks you for a donation so that a poor chosson can buy his kallah a diamond bracelet, or so that the caterer in Torah V’yirah can be paid, are you really going to refuse on principle, knowing that in fact, there might be embarrassment and bad feelings?