Reply To: What is forgiveness?

You don’t understand housewife. What you say is correct, but no one has said otherwise. No one says “it is the responsibility of the offended party to work out his or her feelings.” It is though, both a midda chasida, and ultimately a benefit to the offended party, both in how the offended party is related to in Shomayim, as well as a benefit to his “psychological” well being. This takes not one wit away from the responsibility of the offender.