That said, I think the OP is a reaction to the secular habit of overly focusing on children’s individuality, leading to egocentric adults for whom satisfying their desires is a goal in life.
There’s nothing wrong with having opinions, be it food preferences or favorite colors or people you don’t like. Ultimately we have to listen to Hashem, and we eat kosher even if the nonkosher chocolate looks delicious, don’t wear purple sheitels even if it looks good on us because it would not be tzanua, and we do good for people because Hashem tells us to emulate Him and be kind and merciful.