“Not much veto power there.”
Rabbi Abraham J Twerski MD mentioned (in a tape I think) that his father did not meet his mother until the Chuppah. Rabbi Twerski asked his father that doesn’t the Gemara say that a man is supposed to see his future wife before the wedding. His father said that he “saw” her at the vort. Someone brought him over to the doorway of women’s section of the vort and said, “do you see her over there?”. She was among other girls/women over there. Rabbi Twerski senior was like, “umm….yes”, not able to tell exactly. Rabbi Twerski reports that his parents had a long and successful marriage.