Are you looking to marry a pair of heels or are you looking for an Eishes chayil? dresscode can always be changed, but the person is what really counts. If she is definitely not your type and totally not compatible, fine so be it, but over a pair of shoes!!!!! come on get real!!! It takes moments to change a pair of shoes and a lifetime to change a person. I’m not saying that looks don’t count, If her physical appearance is terribly below your tastesbuds, leave at that, ’cause you can’t change that.
If you are comfortable enough you may even wish to discuss clothes with her… Every girl loves to talk about that. Ask her if she ever likes to wear heals… broach the subject of course in a gentle refined manner, and it will allow both of you to be closer, if you so wish to invest in the relationship..
Life is a multiple choice test, make the right decision. For it’s long term and there’s no turning back!