Apushitayid “all bills are paid by tatty”
The irony! Isn’t that exactly the problem with the shidduch crisis? That unless the Tatty is willing (able) to pay the bills the daughter can’t find a shidduch??? The kest system has been abolished in the chassidishe world. The tatties are not being manipulated into paying the bills on pain of staying with a grey haired daughter at home.