Yeru613 – “we are not sacrificing them they are sacrificing themselves”
This logic presupposes that it is right to make selective standards based on the current criteria being used, that exclude certain clientele. Then one can suggest they are sacrificing themselves by “choosing” to be outside those standards.
However there is a judgement call that needs to be made. Keeping kids sheltered is an important value, not causing kids pain is an important value.
Everyone would agree that if a child had murderous psychotic episodes you can shelter your kids from him regardless of the pain it would cause that child.
If a child curses and speaks divrei nevalah there is a strong argument (not necessarily conclusive) to shelter your kids at that kids expense.
If he has a tv and internet perhaps there is an argument that the mitzvah of chinuch habonim requires you to exclude this child from your childs school. (not sure)
Because his father chooses to work….
Therefore that kid and his family are “sacrificing themselves” and subjecting themselves to suffering.
I would have trouble understanding that when weighing chinuch habonim against inflicting pain that that would dictate creating a standard that excludes a child because his father is no longer learning