Gavra at work;
As for touching the tree, it Adam’s major mistake in telling her not to touch it, and not explaining that G’ said dont eat, and it was his own chumra “not to touch”.
It wasnt her chumra, it was wrongly imposed by Adam.
So you prefer to blame those such as Rabbi Falk and Sem teachers, who push these things on the unsuspecting? Or the girls who accept them?
Your choice.