Joseph,
Sam didn’t say that his earlier three requests for mechila was improper.
That is true, and only Sam2 can clarify. Still, I wrote what I did because:
1. I am judging Sam2 l’kaf zechus that had the requests been truly proper, and that includes being patient and not pestering or humiliating the wronged party if he asks for more time to work through his feelings, he would have granted mechila.
2. If the man gathered a minyan together, he should have used that opportunity to confess his wrongdoing to Sam2 publicly and beg for forgiveness. Instead, he used the minyan to humiliate Sam2 by showing up at his work site rather than home and making the focus his refusal.
If we see that the last thing off the assembly line is pork, should we assume that everything that came off before it is kosher?
Nor did Sam say he expected something additional from the fellow that he failed to perform.
He expected more time.