Nameless,
I believe you are confusing what I said with what the gemora says about the three aveiros that a person loses his olam haba for(well, not qauite – it says that gehinnom runs out before him, which acc. to the maharsha means that he will be in gehinnom for a near infinite amountof time, but not forever) ‘ailu hain yarden vein yaalin’ is the lashon, and it includes a malbin pnei chavero berabim, aishes ish, and one who deos not wear tefillin, but this has no bearing on what I said.
I was referring to excuses that we, with our yatzer hora, make to excuse our actions, and chesrnos, in any area, wehtehr it be tznius, shmiras halashon, bein odom lechavero, dinei mamones, etc..
Kol kevudah is a pasuk in tehillim, firstly. Secondly, chazal use it many, many times as a yesod with the literal idea in action, of women staying at home – yes, al pi musar and drush it refers to middos, but do not sacrifice pshat for drush – the two complement one another, but you cant take one without the other. A pasuk does not mean what you want it to mean – it means what Hashem THINKS. While it’s beautiful to talk about penimuiys in middos, it’s equally beautiful that the akeres habayis be at home as the pasuk says on the pshat level. I am sorry for misunderstood what I said.