Mazel tov to CTLAWYER and family.
I’ve never been to an American wedding. But in Europe it is standard to only come to the dinner in the evening. Chuppas and the reception following them are in the afternoon, when people are at work, and generally only attended by siblings and very close family and friends. In the evening, the dinner will take place in a hall (sometimes many miles away in big cities like London) and Chosson and Kallah arrive to a big entrance like ‘Shtusim’ was suggesting.
In light of that, I would be glad not to have to drive out of town and can’t understand why someone wouldn’t be.
Slightly digressing, but can someone define or describe a ‘shmorg’ for those of us who have never had the pleasure of attending one.