TLIK -“There’s enough blame to spread around, between societal and cultural values, parental role models, the serious deficiencies in chosson and kallah preparation, the lack of education on fundamental interpersonal midos in yeshivos, schools, and seminaries, the trend to glorify the lifestyles founded on dependency, etc”
These are all true! But you forgot one main reason, which applied also to me. The fact that others got involved with their Loshon Hora & most importantly with their Motzay Shem Rah!