Think Straight – I really try to be punctual for Shabbat- This past Shabbat, I had my food on the Blech and the plata an hour before Candle lighting. I really tried, just things happen. The shirt’ button just happened to come off and well, I really do try. I am pushing my family out to shul, even before candlelighting, is it my fault that they don’t want to go yet?? I don’t think you should judge. It’s not like we are sitting around all day Erev Shabbos.
If YOU want to get to Shul and have the very big Zechut of being part of the first of the Minyan, well good for you. It’s is very hard though and there is something called the “Yetzer Hara” that does a pretty good job compounding the problem of preparing for Shabbat.