im more concerned with overmutaring
and you are more concerned with overassuring “
I want to over-assure you that I never been over-mature. 🙂
And if there is NO specific issur told to Moshe m’Sinai and written down in the Torah sheh b’al peh, then it is NOT an issur d’Oreisah. Even d’rabbanan, we have to be careful to differentiate between actual halacha and its gedarim, versus the gedarim ON the gedarim, which are chumros, and which every rov may hold differnetly. At least, let’s not be so quick to judge, and not to deride kulos that are within halachic guidelines. Hashem does not ask us to refrain from enjoying life – to the contrary. When we appear before Him after 120 years, He will ask us outright if we enjoyed the life He gave us and made use of the beautiful things in this world.