I’m at work, so I cannot look up the marei mekomos, but one of my favorites is:
The Wicked son gets a real curt reply, yet in the Chumash, his question is give a very elaborate, even loving, answer (If my memory is correct, it might even be the one that the Haggodoh give to the Wise son).
Why the change of tone? 2 reasons;
#1 – Becuase if after seeing all that has been going on in his house, he has the nerve to ask, “why all the fuss?”, he deserves to be put in his place
#2 – if he’s is still in “chumash” stage (meaning, he is still willing to learn, and wants to stay in the “koislei bais medrash”, we need to treat his questions differently
Each of us know (or have an element of) the wicked son in some form or another. Perhaps its even within our own attitudes. Lets deal with it while we are still on the same side of the obstacle.. its easier to deal with a partner than an opponent