Popa, I would definitely agree that that would be far more powerful, but it’s still very possible that thinking of someone else’s needs, even when your own are so pressing, is still a segulah along the same lines.
It’s even possible for someone, even if the original motivation was selfish, to put themselves in a mindset that the other’s needs are more important.
Judging from oilyhair’s excitement, she is truly happy for her partner, not only in anticipation of her own simcha, but because it became important to her on its own merit.
I join the others in wishing she finds her bashert very soon.