ames- just to add on to what you wrote above; being single many years I don’t mind when people give me brachos (as you so graciously gave me above) even hearing IYH by you doesn’t bother me, in fact I appreciate that as well. Yet, the shidduch parsha can be long and difficult for many people and hurtful comments don’t do anything to help the situation. I’ve heard everything from you’re being too picky to you don’t even want to get married (and everything in between)… and these are statements from random people on the streets who never picked up the phone and tried to suggest someone to me.
If people would just think even a little before they speak many hurtful comments wouldn’t be said, and many tears wouldn’t be shed.